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Premarital Counseling: What is your mindset of Premarital Counseling?

Is your feeling of Premarital Counseling around shame or weakness?

Don’t worry you’re not the only one. As a society we have been conditioned to believe that needing any form of counseling is taboo….as if the person is ill or a couple is broken. This outlook is driven from the Ego.
Society doesn’t teach you that it actually takes a strong person willing to do counseling….not a weak one like society makes you believe.

Counseling is sought after for many different reasons. Counseling is away to learn about yourself…and that is the real reason why people are really afraid.  Most are afraid to look inward at themselves.  We are conditioned by our upbringing that it’s selfish and weak to seek counseling. This belief has become deeply ingrained, and we believe that looking at our self is then weak and selfish.

Premarital Counseling is no exception to this rule either. We all see what getting a college degree can do for a person and their career. So wouldn’t it make sense that if you want a better marriage that you would seek the right lessons to establish a great marriage foundation? When did it become normal to think we know it all about being in a relationship and that we must figure it out on your own? And NORMAL, who determines what, is a normal relationship?

Wouldn’t you want to be the couple that takes the time to establish some great tools in their marriage toolbox? There is nothing wrong with desiring to establish a great Marriage Foundation, and seeking out the right counseling that is in alignment with YOU and YOU as a couple.  Will both be needed? Well only you can answer that, from a deep place within in you.

How do you know what type of Premarital Counseling is right for you, when you don’t know what is your seeking?  Soon I will have an article posted about the “Types of Premarital Counseling and Their Style” so you can get antiquated with the type that FEELS right to you.

Here are a few tips to help you in what to consider when seeking Premarital Counseling?

  1. What type is best for me? and What type is best for us as a couple?
  2. Do I want 1 on 1 sessions? Or am looking for a group session? Do I want a women’s only group or a couples group?
  3. When is the right time for us to do premarital counseling? (It may be after the engagement, just before the weeding, or just before the wedding for phase 1 and then phase 2 begins after the first month of marriage.)
  4. Is a traditional style with my pastor what I am looking for? Or with a local physiologist, in their office? Or am I looking for more modern day approach and convince through Skype, Google Hangout (with video), or phone call sessions (for the possibility of it being recorded to have for playback)?

Take some time to feel out what is best for you as an individual first and then you guys as a couple. Taking some time to journal is a great way to be sure your not answering these questions from your head.

I would love to hear what came up for you in your soul discovery time,  share below in the comments!

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